Ok so I really felt the part about feelings. I feel all of mine until I can’t feel them anymore. I’m going through it hard atm. We are visiting my partner a kids and it’s a lot. A lot has happened, and none of it my partner has handled well (understandably) BUT he chooses to repress and avoid. I want to talk about it. Because I’m going through it too and it’s happening to me too. I find it difficult that he doesn’t want to or can’t. And I feel alone in a Situation where I’m doing my best to support him.
The last time I allowed my feelings to be felt. Gosh. This one got me. I said to my mum the other day, it’s time to prioritise me again. Because I feel and I have for a while that my wants needs and feelings often go by the wayside in this whole situation. Either trying to please work, looking after my partner, sacrificing what I want for the situation we are in. When is it my turn?? Specifically, And the biggest thing for me, is telling myself I should be more patient because he isn’t divorced yet. After 3 years of dating. But this is the only thing I’ve ever asked (yes I’ve had to ask and remind and ask again for my boyfriend to get divorced so we can move on and plan our lives) and always something else takes priority, his obligation to the kids or his parents or something else financially always takes priority. And it’s never acknowledged by him even though he knows how important it is to me. I would be happy with this simple acknowledgment. Like I’m sorry I know it’s important to you I’ll make it up to you. So. Do I need to be more patient or get over it? In the grand scheme of our lives another 12 months won’t matter BUT the bigger issue for me is that his obligation to someone else always comes before me. When is it my turn? I’ve put of buying a house, I want to get married and I want to have fun in life again. When can I have those things? All the feels. Seriously
Oh mate there’s so much here. It sounds like this piece really spoke to you. I really encourage you to listen to the podcast linked in the article. It helped me articulate all of this so much.
Love this, really resonate with it. Your so honest and I love these articles.
Since starting circles and being around wise women I’ve learnt so much about this too. Also in aware /conscious parenting space they talk about feeling all the feelings. So true. Otherwise they get suppressed. I’m having to release a lot of these lately from my body in Bowen therapy. It’s been a ride.
Ok so I really felt the part about feelings. I feel all of mine until I can’t feel them anymore. I’m going through it hard atm. We are visiting my partner a kids and it’s a lot. A lot has happened, and none of it my partner has handled well (understandably) BUT he chooses to repress and avoid. I want to talk about it. Because I’m going through it too and it’s happening to me too. I find it difficult that he doesn’t want to or can’t. And I feel alone in a Situation where I’m doing my best to support him.
I’m like you, I need to express it, I can’t bottle it up. And I can’t run from it. Which is why I feel so called to write also
The last time I allowed my feelings to be felt. Gosh. This one got me. I said to my mum the other day, it’s time to prioritise me again. Because I feel and I have for a while that my wants needs and feelings often go by the wayside in this whole situation. Either trying to please work, looking after my partner, sacrificing what I want for the situation we are in. When is it my turn?? Specifically, And the biggest thing for me, is telling myself I should be more patient because he isn’t divorced yet. After 3 years of dating. But this is the only thing I’ve ever asked (yes I’ve had to ask and remind and ask again for my boyfriend to get divorced so we can move on and plan our lives) and always something else takes priority, his obligation to the kids or his parents or something else financially always takes priority. And it’s never acknowledged by him even though he knows how important it is to me. I would be happy with this simple acknowledgment. Like I’m sorry I know it’s important to you I’ll make it up to you. So. Do I need to be more patient or get over it? In the grand scheme of our lives another 12 months won’t matter BUT the bigger issue for me is that his obligation to someone else always comes before me. When is it my turn? I’ve put of buying a house, I want to get married and I want to have fun in life again. When can I have those things? All the feels. Seriously
Oh mate there’s so much here. It sounds like this piece really spoke to you. I really encourage you to listen to the podcast linked in the article. It helped me articulate all of this so much.
Love this, really resonate with it. Your so honest and I love these articles.
Since starting circles and being around wise women I’ve learnt so much about this too. Also in aware /conscious parenting space they talk about feeling all the feelings. So true. Otherwise they get suppressed. I’m having to release a lot of these lately from my body in Bowen therapy. It’s been a ride.
Here for it x
Yeah there’s so much to be said for somatics. We hold so much in our bodies. Have you read ‘the body keeps score’?